I always tell “The Airplane Story” in my introductory EFT lectures. It’s a true story and illustrates the speed at which tapping can work. Gary Craig, the founder, called them “one minute miracles” and although most of them are actually 2-10 minute miracles, the rapidity of improvement is very impressive indeed. If you haven’t yet read that story — please do so now.
Although tapping works quickly — in general, much faster than most conventional therapies — it usually does not happen with the wave of a wand. Using the airplane story as an example – I can vouch for the immediate emotional relief of that surprised passenger. It calmed her down in the moment. We defused the “bomb” for that one time. A peaceful young woman greeted her boyfriend.
But certainly there were triggers that would need some more attention. She jumped to the conclusion that the attendant was discriminating against her because she was young. That idea didn’t come out of thin air. There must have been specific incidents in her life that led to that belief/conclusion. Will she react in the same way the next time she sniffs out what appears to be age discrimination? Probably. Maybe not so fast. Maybe tempered with the memory of that nice older woman who helped her that time on the airplane.
But until she cleans out the events of her life that have proved to her that if she doesn’t stand up for herself — older people will, unfairly, try to boss her around — until she does that — she hasn’t finished the job. That one minute miracle is miraculous indeed, but even more miraculous is the permanent change that can come when you eliminate all the emotional triggers. And, although amazingly fast (you’re not lying on a couch for years of analysis) — that does take more than a few minutes.
The moral of the story? When you get relief from an incident — take a big sigh of relief — enjoy and savor the calm feeling of well-being. But know that you have a choice. You might just want to wait for Life to put that unfinished piece of work on your desktop. It always does in the form of another event that feels like, looks like, smells like, sounds like (you get the picture) the one you just worked on! Maybe the volume is not so loud or the colors quite as bright — but you recognize it as something familiar. That’s one way to do it. And frankly, with a life full of stressors — it may be the right way to go. You might just have to slay the heads of the dragons as they appear fast and furious on your screen.
But when or if you have the time — it’s great to be proactive and thoroughly clean up a pattern. All you have to do is ask yourself if there any feelings or aspects attached to the memory that need attention. And wait for the answer. Or any other memories that remind you of the one you’re working on? In the case of that upset passenger — have there been other times in your life when adults oppressed you?
And get ready for the &%$((&#^&^@!!!!!